Welcome, I am Candace Dale Mckenzie, a relationship counselor with a MA in Clinical Psychology, author, lecturer, Radio and TV relationship expert. Recently seen on Hallmark, E Entertainment, MTV, Fox,The CW, Complete Woman Magazine, Barnes & Noble.. and more!
Wednesday, September 05, 2012
Connecting Soul To Mate
I learned long ago that there is truth to the universal law of attraction that states, "That what you feel inside, is exactly what will manifest in your life."
If deeply suppressed feelings of fear, shame, and low self esteem are holding you back from creating the best relationships in your life, or connecting you to inauthentic partners, then this could be the time to reach out for supportive healing and assistance.
Ways to begin the process of emotional repair could be to meditate, journal, discover a support group, seek a compassionate therapist, or even try an innovative technique known as
Core Energetics.
Core Energetics incorporates a holistic approach, as its theory suggests that we are all connected to our inner core, being it the inner psyche, as well as the body. Our bodies hold many emotional scars that we sometimes never realize how on an unconscious level, mold into our everyday lives, and most importantly, through our choices in relationships.
I had heard the buzz about this therapeutic technique, and was intrigued to find out more. I set up an interview with Cindy Michel, a certified Core Energetics Practitioner since 2004, who also holds a MA in clinical psychology from Antioch University.
At first, I had no idea what to expect. The only experience I possessed with body therapy was with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, (CBT) which used breathing exercises, and a deep muscle technique known as Progressive Relaxation to decrease anxiety. However, when Cindy greeted me with a big smile, welcoming me into her large, inviting office, I was immediately drawn to her incredibly direct, yet soothing energy. As I began to relax on the couch, Cindy suggested that I use this interview as a session for myself.
After accepting her offer, Cindy then inquired what I wished to accomplish in our time together, and what did I feel were my possible obstacles. By bringing forth my skewed thoughts that said,
"I was too old," or "If I failed then I would die," I was able to define how these statements controlled my actions.
Cindy then explained how to rework my thought distortions that were not based in truth nor reality. Bottom line, I would not actually die by trying again, nor was I past an age to continue to dream either!
Soon after, Cindy then had me stand, and proceeded to give me a tennis racket to hit a large, padded box . Cindy suggested that as I hit the box, I focus on rewording my dysfunctional thoughts. She also suggested that I get in touch with my feelings of anger, shame, and defeat. Here I was allowed in a safe space, to use whatever physical force I needed to process these feelings, not only in mind, but in body and spirit as well.
I wont lie, I felt darn silly hitting that box. Cindy noted that was a typical response, but that I could channel my nervousness to concentrate on how my body was responding. I certainly had a good sweat swinging at the box, and afterwards, Cindy had me move on to use a large body ball. It was while releasing my voice and negative energy on this ball that something clicked immediately. My whole body shook, as if magnetic lightning traveled through my body. It was incredibly liberating to let go, and not have to apologize for using what I like to describe as "choice curse words" to release my anger.
Cindy later explained that by the act of doing these core energetic exercises, one could release old suppressed feelings, so that the brain may then be free to reinforce positive thoughts to make action happen. Very similar to that old saying, "Think and so you shall be." Shakespeare, by all means made a lovely verse, but if your brain is filled with negative, dysfunctional thoughts, such as "I am not worthy, or I will never find someone, or I cannot trust and surrender to a relationship," then your brain will surely continue its old pattern of producing self proclaiming prophecies to sabotage any relationship.
Like cluttered junk, these thoughts fester and build over time. Core Energetics assists in clearing out the clutter. It is only after this removal that one may reboot the brain to a more balanced state.
Needless to say, I finished the session feeling exhausted, but surprisingly exhilarated. Most of all, I left having a sense of peace that I had done some real spring cleaning of the soul, mind, and body to reach some solutions.
If you would like to read more about Cindy Michel, her individual practice, or her Core Energetics seminars please go to:
www.cindymichel.com
cindy@cindymichel.com
310 597 2723
As I am always involved in ways to create therapeutic solutions to help others, if you have referrals, please visit my email or website at
cdmcraft@aol.com
www.ConnectingSoulTo Mate.com
Sunday, August 05, 2012
MTV G's To Gents
Dating Faux Pas
Candace Mckenzie
If you had the opportunity to see me on MTV's, G's To Gents, then you know my feelings on the subject of cellphone use. However, if you missed the show, then here is the quick, but important recap.
Singles Beware!
Cellphone and texting abuse on a date is my Number One , most offensive, dating faux pas!
Cellphones are an important part of our busy lives now. However, I feel that there may be no reason for you to not give your full, undivided attention to your date.
Now of course, there could be emergencies....
But unless you are an ER doctor, or a parent waiting to hear from your child, there may be NO excuse for you to be constantly looking at your phone! It's so distracting, and frankly in bad taste.
This also goes for wearing those ridiculous blue tooths while on a date. Please kindly take them off . (I seriously once had a man wear it for our entire dinner date, and I ended up feeling like I was playing a game of Space Cadets in a sand box.)
Option note here, if you must take a call or return a text for an emergency, kindly let your date know that by saying, "I wanted to apologize upfront that I may have to take this call. I know it's rude, but I will make it quick. After the call, I promise I will turn my phone off to give you my full attention."
Remember, actions speak louder than words, and manners go a long way in the dating world, and if you cannot do your best to invest your fully, focused time to your date, then know you are NOT ready to meet the one.
FYI: This also goes to those Facebook , Twitter, and Instagram addicts- if you want a relationship, then please find a social network, support group!
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